Words have the power to heal and they have the power to hurt.
Some people don’t realize how important the words are we speak. Our words can speak light into someone’s life or darkness into their soul. Our words can literally mean life or death to someone who is struggling. In the Bible it states that death and life are in the power of the tongue. All it takes is saying the wrong thing at the wrong time to push a person over the edge they may be standing on. It happens every day. And we have no idea what is going on in someone else’s life at any point in time.
Gentle words brings peace and life; a devious tongue crushes the spirit. If we allow words of encouragement to leave our lips it heals the one who receives it, but if we speak deceitful or hurtful words they break the spirit of the one who receives it. Do we really want to break the spirit of others? Do we want to break the spirit of a grieving parent? Do we want to break the spirit of an individual with a physical disability or mental handicap? Do we want to break the spirit of someone already living on the streets? Our words can lift a person up or bring them down to the ground in an instance.
What would happen if the only words we spoke were encouraging words of life, hope, and truth? What if the only words we spoke were the words of love, empathy, and compassion? Some people speak words just to hear themselves speak, but their words lack meaning and intent. When we choose to speak love to inspire others we can make an incredible difference in the world and in the life of that individual. Words of life is an act of compassion and love. When we look into the eyes of the broken, the lost, and lonely hearted and speak life and love into them, it will make a change in not only their life, but our own. Carly Rice is a perfect example of this illustration. Miss Carly’s is a place of refuge for many individuals who are broken and lost. Carly opens her home and shares a meal with them to build their trust and fuel them with words of compassion and love until they learn to trust her and open up about their needs and struggles. Miss Carly’s is known for helping those who exist in the margins and provides light to those who are lost to find their way back from the dark. Carly has a way with words but she has also mastered the art of listening to others to find their true desires and needs.
Gary Chapman in his book, Love as a Way of Life uses the brilliant metaphor for words as being either ‘bullets or seeds’. If we use our words as bullets with a feeling of superiority and condemnation, we are not going to be able to restore a relationship to love. If we use our words as seeds with a feeling of supportiveness and sincere good will, we can rebuild a relationship in positive and life-affirming ways. That building of relationships is what Miss Carly has mastered. Carly also knows the value of planting seeds and understands that it might take weeks, month, or even years for someone to be ready for true change, but she will always be there planting seeds to encourage them to another way of life.
We all know there are so many broken people in the world. Every day people around us are struggling in their marriage, in their finances, in their jobs, in their illness or addiction, so many aspects of their lives. Why don’t we make a choice to show LOVE, EMPATHY, and COMPASSION to those around us not only in what we do but what we say? What do I mean by this? I mean slow down…don’t cut someone off, don’t scream or say choice words because the person in front of you is going too slow. I mean be patient…when the person in line in front of you is writing a check instead of using cash or credit like the rest of the world. I mean give recognition…. take time to express your gratitude and appreciation for those you work with instead of taking them for granted. I mean be understanding….to others who don’t think or live like you do or have a different way of doing things. Just because someone is different doesn’t mean they have to be treated differently.
I have witnessed many times where people feel they have a right to criticize, shame, and blame others like it’s their responsibility or duty. No one has the right to do that. I think many of us blame and shame ourselves enough that we don’t need others doing it for us.
Let’s learn to love others for who they are and where they are at in their life just like Miss Carly does. Judge Less and Love More. Most importantly, use words that build up and bring light instead of those that bring darkness and pain.